For me, the Princess is always much harder to channel than the Warrior. I’m sure that’s not the case for everyone. Some might find it much easier to display the Fruits of the Spirit than to battle invisible forces while under attack, but for me the Princess is a challenge. Let’s take a look at who the Princess is and why you need to claim her, as I work to do every day.
The Princess develops in you when you accept Christ into your heart, shed your old ways, and give your life over to the Lord. That last part is important! You GIVE YOUR LIFE OVER TO THE LORD. That means you follow His ways and listen to His voice inside you, what He places on your heart, and obey His commands. It’s easy to conform to the ways of this world, even the ways that may seem harmless, but they’re not. Not only is God’s way the only way to life after this one, but it is also the only way to contentment and peace in this life. I can attest to that personally! When I was once wracked with worry, fear, clinical anxiety and depression, and insomnia, I am now free from all those things! It took work on my part and strength from the Lord, but he freed me and he can do the same for you!
The Princess follows the Lord’s way. How does she do that? The first step is to read the Word and know the Word. You can’t follow the Word if you don’t know what it says. That’s why my book “Warrior Princess” (out in Sept 2019) is founded solely on God’s Word. The Word is truth and it sets us all free if we trust in it, believe in it, and accept it.
How precious are your thoughts about me, O God. They cannot be numbered!”Psalm 139:17 (NLT)
When I started to take a look at the Princess in all of us there was one fundamental thing I found all women need to accept to develop this persona in themselves; we are daughters of the one true king. We were adopted into his family the minute we repented from our sins and turned our lives over to Him. He is a loving Father to us, not some absent figure we dream about. He is living and breathing inside of us. He speaks to us. He hears us. He knows us better than we know ourselves. Even though the Father has many many daughters, He still knows us by name and cares for us. This, all of this, you need to believe with everything in you and store it deep within your hearts. Remind yourself of it every single day. Say it out loud. “I am a Princess; the daughter of the one true King and I am loved beyond all measure!” Claim it! It’s yours to have if you want it. I promise, you won’t regret it.
O Lord, you have examined my heart and know everything about me.”Psalm 139:1 (NLT)
But with acceptance of this position comes great responsibility. You cannot merely say you accept Christ, become a part of his family, call yourself a princess, and end there. You have to live up to it. The Word is full of instructions on how God expects us to behave. Sometimes it can seem overwhelming, but that’s when we pray to God for the strength to be the things he calls us to be. A good place to start would be with the Fruit of the Spirit. (And just a forewarning, I love the Disney Princesses and love finding Christ in them so you’ll be seeing them a lot!)
LOVE: God calls us to be loving to one another. That doesn’t just mean your friends and loved ones. That means everyone, even the unlovable. It’s tough, there’s no doubt about it. Love your enemies, love your neighbors, love all. No one ever said it was going to be easy, but it is a skill we can hone with the help of the Lord. If you call on Him and ask him for help, He will help you. Channel your inner Belle and the love the heck out of all the beasts in your life! Because of the love you show them they will see God in you and it might spark some curiosity on their part as well.
JOY: Find joy in all things, the good and the bad. Be thankful for what you have. Start a gratitude journal. In your prayers, offer thanks and praise to the Lord for all the many blessings He has given you. Humble yourself and realize you do not deserve any of these things, but your gracious God has given them to you anyway. If that doesn’t put a little joy in your heart then I don’t know what will. Take a look at Rapunzel. She was locked away in a tower by an evil mother-figure, and still she sings through the monotony of her mornings with joy in her heart. Once she finally leaves the tower, she sees beauty in every little moment and enjoys every experience she has. We can have that too. It’s not an impossible attainment.
PEACE: Peace is my favorite Fruit of the Spirit. I feel so blessed the Lord gave me peace almost immediately when I accepted him. Since I can remember, I had trouble sleeping. I took every sleeping medicine under the sun. I later found out it was attributed to my anxiety and depression so I tried to take care of that. It wasn’t until I took a hard look at myself, all the sins I’ve committed as far back as I could remember, and repented for them that I was able to sleep soundly at night without the help of any medicine. God grants peace when you turn from sin. That’s his promise.
PATIENCE: Another fruit that we should all aspire to become masters of. I am a single mother of a wild and lovely four-year-old girl. I have a strained relationship with my parents and am currently living with them full-time to pay off an enormous amount of student loan debt. I have a boyfriend whom I hurt badly in the beginning of our relationship because of past sins and sins against him. Only by the grace of God is he still here with me, but the road to recovery is not easy. Without the Lord, my patience was so thin it was almost non-existent. I snapped at everyone over the littlest things. Now, with the help of the Lord which I have to ask DAILY for, I can take snarky remarks and let them wash over me, I can be calm through the storm of a temper tantrum and address the root cause of it. I’m not saying I’m perfect and I don’t still snap occasionally, but it is much better than it used to be and I attribute that entirely to my trust and faith in the Lord and my willingness to humble myself and ask for his help.
KINDNESS: A Princess is kind to others. Any Disney princess movie will confirm this one. (I love finding the Lord and His ways in all things of today’s world, even when they are unintentional! Especially when they are unintentional. Strengthens my faith that God created this all and His ways are emblazoned on our hearts, even when we reject Him.) A kind word is always better received than sarcasm or unloving words. Make sure you’re putting on your mouth filter and sifting through your thoughts before they pass out into the world. We need to show acceptance to all those around us, whether they follow God’s way or not. It’s that kindness you show them that might put them on the right path eventually. Look at Pocahontas and the kindness she showed John Smith in the 1995 Disney film. She didn’t shun him because he looked different, spoke different, or did things different. She befriended him, took an interest in what was important to him, and showed him great kindness when no one else would.
GOODNESS: A Princess displays goodness, meaning her life reflects the Lord’s way. This one was a challenge for me because of my struggles with sexual sin and living my own way for so long. It was hard to completely give every little thing up to the Lord and live His way. It was scary. I feared rejection from the people I loved. But I promise once you do you will never say ‘I wish I hadn’t done that’. It’s empowering and brings that peace and contentment we’re all desiring.
FAITHFULNESS: I feel this goes hand-in-hand with goodness. You can’t say you’re going to live the Lord’s way and then be wishy-washy about it. Of course, we all make mistakes and if we repent we’re forgiven of those mistakes, but we shouldn’t use that as an excuse to continue to do the wrong things over and over again either. Be faithful to the Lord and to yourself. One princess faithful to who she was called to be was Moana. She stopped at nothing to return the heart of Tafiti and restore the world before it was destroyed, even when it got hard, when she had doubts that she could even do it. We could all use that kind of faithfulness in our Lord and who He has called us to be. He made each of us unique, with our own individual callings and purposes. Don’t give that up!
GENTLENESS: The first Princess that Disney ever gave her own original movie was “Snow White” in 1937. If there was ever a princess that displayed gentleness, it was Snow White! There was a softness to her, a quietness, a modesty, and a sweetness about her that could not be denied by anyone who saw her. This is something a Princess should aspire to. (And it’s okay to have other women you look up to while you develop these fruits, even if they are fictitious! As long as they stay examples and don’t become idols in your life, you’re good to observe and apply to your life what you learn from them.)
SELF-CONTROL: The last fruit is self-control. This one can be applied to all aspects of life. Though God is in charge of all, He has blessed us with free will which means you are in charge of yourself. No one on earth can make you do anything, even with the heavy hand of guilt. Stand up for yourself, stand firm in your faith, and gain self-control over your life, your actions, your words, your thoughts, literally everything! It takes time to develop and commitment. Constant work. But you’ll be thankful you put in the effort once you start to see the miracle of it take hold in you! Consider Cinderella. How that character endured all she did from her evil stepmother and stepsister and did not go berserk on them once is beyond me! She showed great restraint and self-control. Can you even imagine being in her position and behaving as innocently as she did? It’s almost unimaginable, but that’s the kind of self-control we are called to have over ourselves in all experiences, good and bad.
Galatians 5:22-23 (NLT)
But the Holy Spirit produces this kind of fruit in our lives: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. There is no law against these things!”
These are just some of the cornerstones of the Princess. There is so much more to her and to you! I suggest doing what I did in order to gain knowledge of all the Lord says I am and who He calls me to be and read through the entire Bible, cover-to-cover, with the intention of picking out these things and interpreting them for yourselves. Proverbs 31 is a great passage to meditate on and apply to your own life when putting on the Princess identity God has given you. We will dig deeper into it in a later article as well!